Faith
Hakesley
There is always hope!
Hi, I'm Faith! Thank you for visiting my website!
You can use the contact form here on my website to contact me with your comments, questions, and prayer requests or to inquire about interviewing me or having me speak at your next event. I am so glad that you are here!
I am a Catholic wife, homeschooling mother, author, blogger, and survivor of clerical abuse.
My mission is to spread awareness about issues such as sexual abuse and trauma. Most of all, I feel called to spread a message of hope. During a life changing meeting with Pope Benedict XVI in 2008, he said to me, “There is always hope.” It is this message that I strive to bring to others through my work. Through faith, hope abounds even in the worst of circumstances.
I am a firm believer in the mind, body, and spirit connection. When one part suffers, they all suffer. Having endured sexual abuse, known the grief of loss, and survived cancer and a heart condition, I have personally found this whole person approach to be the most beneficial. Incorporating one's faith with proper nutrition, exercise, and good mental health support can make all the difference.
Everyone heals differently but healing IS possible. I hope that at least some of my content resonates with you and helps you (or someone you love) on your own healing journey. No matter what season of life you are in right now, remember that you are not alone and that there is tremendous beauty that comes from uniting one’s suffering to that of Jesus’s on the cross. I pray that you find hope, healing, peace, and freedom.
An Open Letter to My Fellow Survivors of Clerical Abuse
Dear Beloved Child of God and Fellow Survivor,
I write to you with a heart full of understanding and compassion, acknowledging the profound pain and suffering you have endured. As someone who shares in this journey of healing, I deeply empathize with the heavy burden of betrayal from those meant to embody God’s love and care. The scars left by such betrayal are immense, and the path to recovery can often seem daunting and solitary. Yet, it is vital to remember that you are not alone.
In the midst of darkness, there is hope—a hope I have personally discovered. Healing is possible, even though the journey may be fraught with difficulty. There are moments of grace and light, shining through even the most overpowering darkness. This light is Christ, and it is through Him that we can find genuine healing.
Faith plays a crucial role in our healing, offering strength, comfort, and hope. It helps us rebuild our lives, find meaning, and understand that our pain is not the end of our story. Trusting in God’s plan and embracing His grace opens us to true healing and transformation.
For those of you who are struggling with your Catholic faith and searching for a way to hold on, I particularly encourage you to pray the Rosary. It has been one of my greatest sources of strength. Each bead and prayer has served as a lifeline, drawing me closer to Our Lady and her Son. The Rosary is not merely a prayer but a powerful tool against despair, offering comfort and guiding us toward peace and healing. Through it, we walk with Mary through her sorrows and joys, and she leads us gently to her Son, the Divine Healer. I encourage you to incorporate the Rosary into your daily life. The graces will be insurmountable!
There are times when the pain seems unbearable, and healing feels out of reach. However, God is truly present in our suffering. He desires to heal our wounds. Our Heavenly Father understands our pain and grieves with us.
Healing is a non-linear process, and it is perfectly okay and normal to struggle, cry, and question. Remember, you are deeply loved and cherished by God. You are His beloved child. This profound truth remains unchanged by the abuse you have suffered. Your true identity is defined not by the pain inflicted upon you, but by the boundless love God has for you—a love that surpasses any darkness or betrayal.
Our journey may be challenging, but with faith, hope, prayer, and support, we walk this path together. I understand the deep wounds left by those who should have been our protectors. The struggle, doubt, and anger are valid and shared. While the darkness can seem overwhelming, hope helps us move forward, believing in the possibility of peace, healing, and joy despite everything.
Sharing our stories, though painful, can be a vital part of healing. When you’re ready and if you feel called to it, I encourage you to share your story in a way that feels right to you. Your voice matters, and you have the power to inspire change and bring light to others. You survived and, by the grace of God, you have the strength to thrive. That being said, I also want to stress that it's okay if you don't feel called to share your experiences in a public way. God calls us all in different ways!
As I write this, I want you to know that you are in my prayers. I pray for peace in your heart, strength in your spirit, and hope in the days to come. I pray that you feel God’s love surrounding you, especially when it feels as though the world has turned away.
Please take care of yourself. You are loved, valued, and not defined by what happened to you. Remember, you are a survivor. We are survivors and we are stronger than the darkness.
With love and prayers,
Faith