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HAKESLEY
Ask a Survivor Blog with the Ruth Institute

I am the moderator of The Ruth Institute's Ask a Survivor Blog. You can submit your questions to me regarding sexual abuse, trauma, victimization, healing, etc. Your name will never be used in my public responses.
My expertise lies in victimization. Because of what happened to me, I easily empathize with others and can create for them a level of comfort and reassurance as they seek healing. A lot of times people who have suffered abuse (whether it’s direct as in sexual abuse or indirect as in being sucked into the hook-up culture) don’t know what’s normal when they’re trying to heal. They might have questions such as:
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Why do I feel this way?
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Why am I thinking like this?
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How can I get through this difficult moment?
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How am I supposed to move forward now that this horrible thing has happened?
A parent or loved one of a survivor might have similar questions such as:
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What are the signs of abuse?
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Why is my child acting like this?
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How can I help?
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I’m pretty upset myself. Have I been traumatized too?
Questions such as these are all part of “Survival 101.” Sometimes people need to talk to someone who has "been there." That's where I can help! I want to help you navigate through the difficulties you are facing. My goal is to help bring awareness, hope, peace, and healing to those who need it.
I’m here for you. Let’s talk.
For more information or to submit a question, please email me at AskASurvivor@ruthinstitute.org or visit the Ruth Institute's Ask a Survivor page.